{"id":1393,"date":"2018-10-23T00:00:10","date_gmt":"2018-10-23T00:00:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/jhanderson.biz\/?p=1393"},"modified":"2019-01-03T00:15:32","modified_gmt":"2019-01-03T00:15:32","slug":"4-ways-to-build-trust-on-your-team","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/jhanderson.biz\/index.php\/2018\/10\/23\/4-ways-to-build-trust-on-your-team\/","title":{"rendered":"4 ways to build trust on your team"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-1469 alignleft\" src=\"http:\/\/jhanderson.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/clouds-300x199.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"199\" srcset=\"http:\/\/jhanderson.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/clouds-300x199.png 300w, http:\/\/jhanderson.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/clouds-768x509.png 768w, http:\/\/jhanderson.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/clouds.png 921w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/>\u201cI\u2019m sorry, but I just don\u2019t trust you,\u201d said Pat to Chris skeptically.<\/p>\n<p>Within this black cloud of a sentence\u2014sure to drop plenty of rain on any relationship\u2014there is a very faint silver lining: the fact that Pat is willing to say it out loud to Chris. More typically, a lack of trust means that talking about it with this degree of clarity is not very likely.<\/p>\n<p>Team trust is a critical component of effectively working together. When trust is there, results fly out the door. Without trust, anything good that happens feels like a miracle.<\/p>\n<p>Whether your team is in the enviable position of having a high level of trust or not, it can seem like an uncontrollable mystery, something wondrous like lightning in a bottle. Certainly team chemistry and personalities have a lot to do with it. But it\u2019s not entirely down to luck. We can thank consultants David H. Maister, Charles H. Green and Robert M. Galford for providing a handy and practical formula to help unpack the mystery and give your team a sense of control. In <em><a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/dp\/B000FC0VWA\">The Trusted Advisor<\/a><\/em>\u00a0 they describe a \u201ctrust quotient\u201d that they use in their consulting practice to measure trust levels between people that work together. More above the formula <a href=\"https:\/\/trustedadvisor.com\/why-trust-matters\/understanding-trust\/the-trust-quotient-and-the-science-behind-it\">on their website<\/a>. Here are its elements:<br \/>\n<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-1428\" src=\"http:\/\/jhanderson.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Equation.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"157\" height=\"77\" \/><br \/>\n<em>Where:<br \/>\n<\/em>T = trustworthiness<br \/>\nC = credibility (your words)<br \/>\nR = reliability (your actions)<br \/>\nI = intimacy (your emotions)<br \/>\nS = self-orientation (your motives)<\/p>\n<p>In a team context, having the space to explore trust in terms of its component parts is like gold. Chris and Pat\u2019s conversation can shift from \u201cI don\u2019t trust you\u201d to \u201cI\u2019m having trouble trusting you, and I think these are some of the reasons why.\u201d In that shift the conversation moves from a brief and possibly testy exchange to an open and curious inquiry, one that might include other people on the team and will likely lead to greater insight, understanding, and (with a little luck and effort) improved trust.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s not to say that these conversations will be entirely easy. It\u2019s just that the terms of the conversation are broken down in a way that makes it more manageable. Let\u2019s consider each of these elements:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>There will be differences of opinion about individual <em>credibility<\/em> (one of the fiercest battlegrounds on many a tech team!). But a conversation about credibility can open out into an inquiry about how you each think about the issues at hand, and what expertise each team member has to offer. Focusing on credibility independently of other factors makes it more possible to have an objective conversation.<\/li>\n<li><em>Reliability<\/em>, the practice of doing what you say you\u2019re going to do, seems on the surface to be primarily an act of discipline and will. But often misunderstandings about intention or commitments lead to differing perceptions of unreliability. These differences need to be sorted out with clarity in the light of day, and not entangled with other trust-related issues that only confuse things.<\/li>\n<li>The experience of <em>intimacy<\/em> is built on qualities like self-awareness and emotional openness. Building intimacy with others requires courage, a sense of what\u2019s appropriate, attention to how others are responding, and a willingness to experiment. This may be the trickiest of the trust equation elements to develop\u2014but the rewards are substantial.<\/li>\n<li>In the equation, the lower your <em>self-orientation<\/em>, the higher your trust score. The key here is to listen to others, put their needs first, and relate to them with curiosity. (For more about self-orientation, see \u201cBecome aware of your self-orientation\u201d above.)<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><em>Try It:<\/em> Talk with your team about the Trust Quotient. Find a safe way to explore how the elements of the equation play out in the team\u2019s interactions and ways of working together. Even a little insight can be the catalyst for big improvements.\u00a0 Keep at it over time. The conversation may need to occur gradually, a little at a time, over several conversations. But given the importance of team trust, make it a priority to keep it as an agenda item to check in on regularly.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cI\u2019m sorry, but I just don\u2019t trust you,\u201d said Pat to Chris skeptically. Within this black cloud of a sentence\u2014sure to drop plenty of rain on any relationship\u2014there is a very faint silver lining: the fact that Pat is willing to say it out loud to Chris. 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